Thursday, March 08, 2007

Happy Birthday Paula!


What can we say? We love Paula. Period. James thinks she's hot (she is). Seamus loves her cookies. Finn races to the door for hugs every time he hears her voice. And me, well, most days I'm not sure what I'd do without her. The greatest surprise of our abrupt move back to Minnesota was the discovery of Officer Bob and his perfect wife Paula a few doors away. What can I say? She has the most energy of anyone I've ever met - and I know a lot of women with energy. She's a fabulous athlete, an incredibly devoted daughter, sibling, mother, spouse and friend. She'll drop anything and everything to help you - and you'd never even have to ask. She's sensitive and a worrier and that makes her open and easy to talk to. Basically, she's a Blessing disguised as a curly haired firecracker.

In the weeks leading up to Finn's birth, their son Jeff started showing up to mow the grass. When I tried to pay him the first time, his mother marched into the house and said "Absolutely not. I've already paid him."And I thought, I've move into a neighborhood where the neighbors pay their kids to mow my lawn? Really?

And when we came home from the hospital the house was decorated inside and out with signs and lots of flowers from Paula's garden. She stopped in every day to see how things were going and if we needed anything, and over time I've discovered that no matter how competent I feel as a parent or a person, I've certainly come to need Paula and Bob. Whether it is their uncanny ability to stop over while water is pouring through my ceiling,or drive through the ally when the dome light was left on in the car, or just the dinners and evenings sitting by the fire gabbing (and if ever four people knew how to gab) they are one of the pure pleasures of our lives.

It's easy to highlight all the life-saving examples of friendship, but truth is that the times that have endeared her most to me, were the times when James was working all hours and she'd come down and have a glass of wine and a little adult conversation after the kids went to bed. I look back on that now, and realize without her friendship that would have been a very hard time for us. But instead, it was often easy and fun because I knew I was never alone. I am a better parent and person because Paula has filled in with an extra set hands at bath time or a warm baked good just at those points when I was feeling fried. Maybe it's a coincidence that she shows up when I'm feeling wiped out or maybe this is how God takes care of us. He gives us each other to watch over. We all have the choice to take care of our neighbor or not, mostly I suppose we don't in this day and age, but Paula is a great example of taking care of her neighbor both literally and figuratively.

Happy Birthday, Paula. You are a gift to us. The picture is from last November - it's the morning we took our Christmas pictures. Guess who stopped down on the way home from church to take the photos...

Wednesday, March 07, 2007

Some random Finn themed photographs...






Finn in various state of destruction...
Nothing is safe when he's around...
Brothers are the best...

Some random Seamus themed photos...






Seamus cheering Dad on at the Fronzen Half Marathon (note the cowbell)...
Seamus the photographer (he calls this "Startled Mom and Brother)...
Seamus the winter explorer (the suburbs are great for cul de sac snow mounds)...
Seamus the hot chocolate cook (he made it himself)...

Friday, March 02, 2007

22 inches of snow

Well, not to continue the Minnesota stereotype, but we currently have 22 inches of snow on the ground (over 8 days) and more falling.

For some reason, I just felt that needed to be noted.

James

A Sad Goodbye

So sadly, our good family friend, Bill Malloy passed away last weekend and his funeral was on Wednesday. Not only have Bill & Renee been some of my parent's closest friends for about 40 years, they were also our next door neighbors in Cherry Hills for more than 30 (and across Bottle Lake for just about as many). Their love story of small town American officer meets French aristocrat beauty in the shadows of world war two is a one in a million sort of tale. She leaves her life of privilege behind to travel all over the US with her gentle and wonderful new husband, finally settling to raise their family in St. Paul. They were every bit the fairytale and we are so sad to see him gone. As a child growing up next to this family (for me it was mostly about Bill & Renee and their grandchildren since their children were all grown by the time I mostly remember) was a wonderful sort of privilege. They brought a sense of worldliness and gentility to our suburban neighborhood, and yet they were always full of fun and life (and a little teasing too).

As I grew older and thought about family and home, I genuinely hoped we'd have a "Malloy" sort of relationship - I'm not sure it would ever be possible to repeat. The stories are many and varied: Once when our house had just been burglarized, Bill showed up with a shotgun and a holstered hand gun (as it was illegal in those days to have a gun without a holster...not sure why...) ready to defend the neighborhood - what he and my father thought they might do with those guns probably hadn't crossed their minds until the next morning. But there he was in the middle of the night standing with my parents, looking out for their children. I believe that the first call was to Bill and Renee's house and the SECOND call to the police. So much for the insurance salesman and the engineer...

He and Renee also would be known to have a "nightcap" at my parent's house after all the kids (their 5 and my parent's 6 at the time) were in bed (nightcap = martini). These nightcaps went well into the wee hours... Who has this kind of energy any more? For a long time the only kids that were in our neighborhood while I was growing up were the Malloy's visiting grandchildren. My first crush and also first kiss was with their oldest grandson, Graham, and every time I saw Bill until my wedding day he'd tease me about it. He always had a mischievous twinkle in his eye. The first time I ever went sailing was with Bill and it was about the only time I ever felt totally comfortable tilting over the side of a quick moving boat. He had the special gift of making you feel important, smart and beautiful. If only there was more of that gift in the world.

I could go on and on about the kind of man he was, but the most true thing I can say about him is that we were all better, more interesting people for having known him.
He will be missed so much. God Bless you, Bill. You certainly blessed us.

Connor!


Sorry for the long delay - it's been a busy two weeks and we've been staying at my sister Peggy's house since Monday - as you might imagine I haven't had much time to even think about blogging.

First of all, WELCOME CONNOR DOUGHERTY! Seamus and Finn are now officially BIG cousins and are VERY excited about the newest addition! Tom, Andie and family are doing great - besides being a beautiful baby - he also weighed in at 9 pounds (holy cow, Andie!) Everyone sounds relaxed and happy (or as relaxed as you can when you've just had a life changing experience :)

Seamus wants to name our baby Connor now too - which again is confusing since he's sure it is a girl. The last time I talked to Tom I told him we had to get the boys together soon because in about three months I was pretty sure Connor would be following in "Tough Tommie's" footsteps and be willing and able to kick the Minnesota Dougherty cousins' little butts. Let's just hope that he's benevolent... Aren't they all gorgeous!